Solutions and tips for how to stop crying before it starts.
There are some people, like myself, who sometimes have a hard time controlling their emotions — they can cry at the drop of a hat. All it takes is some type of difficult conversation or emotional moment for the waterworks to start building up. Many other people can’t understand why we cry — they see this as a sign of weakness. So you may be looking for ways to control crying and stop crying your heart out all over the place to get more respect from other people. Here are a few tips for how to stop crying before it starts.
Take a Deep Breath and Stop Talking
As someone who has been afflicted with this problem since childhood, I find that taking a deep breath when I feel the emotion building up helps a lot. You need to stop talking — the talking is where you reveal the fact that tears are coming, then you can’t control the tears when they start flowing. So deep breath, and stop yammering. Then once you get a hold of yourself, you can proceed with what you have to say, keeping the next suggestion in mind…
Shift Your Thoughts to Something Funny
When you know that you are going to be talking to someone about a topic that is pretty emotional for you, get a firm picture of something funny in your mind beforehand. Someone who fell down the stairs the week before. A funny joke someone sent you via email. A funny Youtube video. Whatever makes you laugh every time you see or think about it. Keep that picture going on in the back of your head while you talk about the emotional subject. As soon as you finish saying what’s on your mind, immediately think back to the funny thought to bring a smile to your face.
And make what you have to say quick. Don’t belabor on tough subjects and conversation if you know that you have a tendency to cry when they’re brought out.
Get Something in Your Hand to Distract You from What You are Saying
You don’t want to think too hard about the emotional subject you are discussing. That is what is triggering the tears in the first place. Thoughts being brought out from where they were formerly under lock and key is why we cry. You have to learn how to control those thoughts if you want to control crying. So one last suggestion is to have something in your hand to distract you as you are talking about a difficult issue that could make you emotional. That way your thoughts are partially on the something in your hand, whether it be a stress ball, a phone that you are playing with (maybe a silent game), or knitting job.
I know how tough it is to control crying. Some of us just have that seemingly uncontrollable urge. But you have to learn how to stop crying your heart out in order to exhibit strength in certain situations. Using these basic suggestions for how to control your crying before it even starts is a great way to start on that goal.
Posted by Jade
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